...Like the drunks do

Sunday, November 28, 2010

As I Sit Here

As I sit here at my desk, at the nurses station, I begin to recognise little things about my residents that make them so unique. My mind should not wander so much, as i am trying to utilize my time to do school work, but it seems I have little control over it considering I deal with them all night. Ron was a strong man in his youth. Still young in his 60's, he is physically challenged due to numerous strokes. So to get his way he uses sympathy. He uses sympathy to get attention also. So rather than play his sympathetic, wow es me games, I enjoy an intellectual challenge. Stimulating his mind keeps him from talking baby talk to me, and makes him think of new ways to sound as smart as what he believes he once was. This makes him a happy man. Like all men, he loves to be asked advise. Martin is a very lonely man. He visits his wife in the nursing home and loves her just as much now as when they first got married. i will cry the day that she passes, I will shed tears for this man and his loss. His dreams are very real to him. Rather than looking for sympathy to get attention, he will just talk to you. I imagine him as a striking man in his youth, a lot of fun to be around, very genuine family man. His wife is a lucky women. Wanda is giving up. Her husband says she was never much of a fighter, he believes that is why she is acting the way she is. Rather than being proactive about the new occurrences her body is having, she simply just begs of more help. Doc is a sweet old sole who hates to be spoken to as if he were a child. He drinks in excess, but always offers a smile and advise. he loves children. He was a family practitioner in his younger days. Turns out one of our other residents know him, she was once his nurse! You can only imagine the storied that were spun from the other care givers and residents once this was made public. Esther is my fightsy fighter. She is one of our oldest residents, well into her 90's, but more independent than those younger than her. She is very stuck in her ways, and still loves to talk about men. She told me a story once of when she was younger. She went to a party and was giving away free camels cigarette's. She says she was about eleven at that time. She is a beautiful women. Her husbands were lucky to have her.
   I wonder how I will be when I get older. Will i be like Mrs. Brown and be a happy go lucky, passive older women to is pleased to do as needed. Or will I be like Alli, fighting the whole way, believing things are the way i see them, through my Alzheimer's eyes.

Sincerely,
JD

2 comments:

  1. Hi JD, 28 Nov 10

    I must say WOW, what a book you could write with all those stories you hear from your patients. You have to really see and hear with your heart because of the patients being so set in their ways. Some refusing to change, others refusing to let go, others demanding attention and the "Do it for me" attitude.

    Many years ago (back in high school), I volunteered in a nursing home and I remember an old women who refused to wear her teeth and she cleaned the table where she sat all the day long. I do not remember her name but I remember that she was so meticulous with her kleenix, round and round and round and round, she cleaned the table until she said she was done.

    Listen to their stories; it truly gives them absolution to move forward.

    Thank you for sharing JD - I really enjoy reading what you have to say.

    Julie Atkins

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  2. Thank you Julie. I lvoe working with my residents, they really are each very unique. I love to hear their stories of when they were younger, they really open my eyes. I have a couple ladies who are very simular to the one you are describing. She folds her napkin, making sure it is perfectly creased, beautifully aligned, and set just right to the side of the table. They each have their routine also, and you can not break it or it throws them off. So each night when I am there, I will visit with the ones who can not sleep, and one women will page me just to have a hugg and kiss on the forhead goodnight. I really enjoy my job. It is hard not to get attached. Many of them are already sick, so I know I wont have them long. So I enjoy what time I have with them, and do my best to take care of them.

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